Valentine’s Day comes with its own set of expectations, often unwrapped as bouquets and boxed as chocolates.
But there’s a flip side to the festivities—a pressure that can affect anyone, single or spoken for.
Let’s focus on managing this day with your mental health in mind.
Your mental health is always a priority
With a day that seemingly emphasises perfect romantic scenarios, it’s vital to remember that mental wellbeing comes first.
A study by the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare indicates that many people experience heightened feelings of loneliness and anxiety around special occasions.
Whether you’re feeling Valentine’s Day or not, look after yourself by maintaining routines that serve your mental health.
Acumen’s Lead Rehab Consultant, Ashleigh Bailey, shares some simple tips for managing the stress and expectations around February 14.
- Take time for yourself
- Take a break from social media
- Practise our gratitude
See Ashleigh talk about these tips and how they can support your wellbeing in the video below.
Coping with relationship expectations
For those in relationships, the stereotypes of Valentine’s Day can create anxiety to meet unspoken standards.
The Black Dog Institute suggests that clear and open communication is crucial in managing relationship-related stress.
This Valentine’s Day, engaging in honest conversations with your partner about your expectations can prevent misunderstandings and reduce pressure on both sides.
It’s one day out of the year, and you have the power to decide how much weight you give it.
By knowing you’re not alone in how you feel, you can navigate the day in a way that suits you best.
Remember, celebrating love and relationships is more profound than a date, it’s about genuine connections and self-care, every day.
Supporting each other
Around Valentine’s, those without significant others might feel particularly isolated.
Sometimes your mates might not say it, but they could be feeling the pinch too. A simple, ‘How’s things?’ can go a long way.
It’s all about being there for each other, especially when the world’s spreading the love a bit too thick for your liking.
The Australian Psychological Society highlights the importance of social connections for mental health and how we can combat feelings of loneliness.
Checking in with your mates and offering support underscores the value of friendship and the strength of non-romantic relationships.
Leadership and workplace wellness
Valentine’s expectations can sneak into professional environments, potentially adding stress.
If you’re leading a team, keep an eye out for signs of Valentine’s overkill.
It may be useful to make sure everyone knows it’s business as usual.
Show you’re open to chat about anything that’s on their mind – a good boss knows a healthy team is a strong team.
And creating awareness around mental health at the workplace is a crucial strategy for reducing work-related psychological harm.
Loneliness and its impact
Loneliness isn’t just about being alone – it’s about feeling disconnected, and it can hit whether you’re in a crowd or on your couch.
In Australia, loneliness is a growing concern, especially among men. It can lead to depression, anxiety, and even physical health problems.
Even with a bunch of mates or a partner, some men still feel alone.
Keeping your social connections alive is key and knowing when to ask for help matters.
If you’re struggling with this, know that you’re not alone. See below for some helpful resources.
Quick tips
Navigating the loneliness that can come with Valentine’s Day is all about keeping connections strong and finding comfort in your own company. Here’s how:
- Connect with friends – Organise a dinner, hit the gym together, or just have a chat.
- Limit social media – Too many love posts? Take a break and avoid the buzz.
- New hobby time – Always wanted to learn something new? Now’s your chance. Dive into a new hobby and meet new people along the way.
- Self-care – Relax with a good book, a favourite movie, or whatever chills you out.
- Laugh more – Hit up a comedy night or watch some stand-up for a good laugh.
- Exercise – Physical activity is a proven mood booster. Lace-up and get moving.
- Volunteer – Giving back can connect you with others and give a strong sense of purpose.
- Professional help – If loneliness is weighing you down, don’t hesitate to reach out to a professional.
Own your day
Valentine’s Day can be a whirlwind of emotions and expectations.
Whether single or in a relationship, manage this day by keeping it sincere, staying connected, and maintaining open communication.
It’s the authenticity of your actions that will resonate the most, not the calendar date.
Resources
- The Australian Men’s Health Forum digs into the loneliness issue – AMHF
- Men and emotional wellbeing – MensLine Australia
- Combating loneliness – Beyond Blue
- Lifeline has a wealth of support options
- Heads Up has your back with these resources
- Relationships Australia offers great tips
- Loneliness – APS
